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The How of The Now
(Everything exists in the now. Live it!)
You are born with the ability to live for the moment, but you must learn to live for the now — The learning is easy, the living is not.
LOVE
- Love what you are doing.
- Love is present when needs are met.
- Love is necessary to live in the now.
- Love involves responsibility.
- Love that is responsible is empathic.
- Love abhors waste, especially waste of human potential.
COMMITMENT TO PURPOSE
- Anything worth doing is worth improving.
- To get what you want, you must do what it takes.
- You are truly the results of our efforts.
- Change is a constant — to improve, things must change.
TRUST AND ASSERTIVENESS
- Trust is a basic to living in the now.
- Trust is based on assertive behavior.
- Assertive people are:
- Direct
- Honest
- Loving
- Trustworthy
- Caring
- Sharing
- Purpose driven.
COMMUNICATION/LISTENING
- Encourage people to question and make suggestions.
- Share information and clarify expectations.
- Access to information helps improve the process.
- The quality of the now is determined by the quality of your communications.
- Acknowledge the need for feedback.
- If life is a game, share the rules.
CRITICISM
- Avoid at all cost…it doesn’t work
- Criticism tends to make people feel inferior.
- If you blame other people, they blame you.
- Avoid the use of labels.
- Avoid being judgmental.
GIVING CREDIT
- Praise before criticizing.
- Recognize those who make the effort.
- Don’t take good effort for granted.
- Give credit only within a context of listening to and caring about the person.
COOPERATION
- Cooperation is making others feel that they count and that they are important.
- Move people from the position “me” to “we”.
- Cooperation reduces barriers, rivalries, and distrust.
- Common struggles for others not separate struggles for power.
RESPECT
- Respect is based on the concepts of caring and sharing.
- Respect says one has worth.
- The individual is the source of all significance, all meaning and all value.
- One’s true significance is in living life is to actualize the now.
VALUE AND THE ART OF GIVING
- When people feel valued, they rise to the level of giving.
- Always practice the principle of lighting candles.
- Give without conditions.
BOUNDARIES
- You can’t put the now in a box.
- Avoid imposing boundaries on others.
- Individuality cannot be subject to limitations and restrictions.
- Boundaries put limits on improvement
- “Conformity is the cup which holds the tea, and the shape of the cup does not determine the taste of the tea.” —Clinton R. Meek
INVOLVEMENT
- The absence of involvement produces a “them-against-us” mentality.
- Always look for things in common.
- Involvement is the practice of caring and sharing.
QUALITY
- Focus on the now
- Unity of purpose
- Looking for faults in systems
- Teamwork
- Lifelong learning
Lessons for The Now, written December 24, 2000 during the age of the Capricorn.
kenne
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